Most parents start here, and that’s ok, it's not your fault! You don’t know what you don’t know. Unfortunately you may have been passed down harmful traits and behaviors from your parents that you are now unconsciously passing down to your kids.

At this level, parents are typically unaware of their harmful behavior and the skills needed to overcome them. You may be resorting to what we call the "Default Mode" of parenting having to yell, spank, coerce or even bribe your children to get them to do what you want. You may be experiencing constant power struggles in your house like getting ready, getting chores & homework done, getting to bed on time, screen time, etc. You may be feeling frustrated, stressed, tired, overwhelmed and even hopeless. You may be feeling stressed and confused on what to even do or how to resolve this. 

This is the "Learning" phase. This can be uncomfortable as you shed your old identity. At this level you will begin to re-discover yourself, the brain skills needed to parent effectively and how to show up as the adult in your relationship with your children. You will start to reflect on your actions and catch how your unconscious behavior has been holding you back in creating connection with your child. You will identify your triggers and limiting beliefs and learn what causes them at the root level.

You will learn what skills need improvement when it comes to disciplining, connecting and communicating with yourself and your child. You will start looking at your child with a different lens and might be thinking that there are more effective ways to handle misbehavior and mistakes over what you have been doing. You’ll feel relieved knowing that it is possible for you and your child to have a deep meaningful connection with one another and you’ll even feel excited to get started on this new journey of parenting

At this level you will be actively practicing your new found skills. You've become conscious of both your own and your children's thoughts, emotions, triggers and behaviors. You’ll be creating a secure environment for your children and you will start to notice a positive shift in your connection with them.

You will start to notice the way you show up for your child has greatly improved. The yelling, bribing, and coercion has been greatly reduced. Your communication skills are improving with your child and you are now able to have more productive conversations rather than the constant power struggles. The power struggles you have now are shorter and less intense and you are able to find a solution after the dust has settled. You may be feeling hopeful, inspired and passionate to be a parent again. A sense of heightened confidence in your parenting abilities will be evident, as you feel increasingly equipped with the skills necessary to show up authentically for your child

You are well on your way to mastery. Getting to this stage takes some time and practice, although, once you do, the practice will be well worth it. You will find yourself unconsciously parenting again, instead this time your “default mode” of parenting will be replaced with the discipline, communication, and brain skills you’ve learned along the way.

The relationships with your children and family will be the strongest they have ever been as you have become more proactive rather than reactive in situations. You have a new lens to see the world and you are a completely different person than you once were. Power struggles in your home have all but vanished and you no longer see the need to punish your children. You will feel confident in the humans you are raising as there is a certain peace in your home because they listen to you because they want to. You will feel fulfilled and connected like never before as your family becomes the shining light in your life.